Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Take Care Of Yourself...

What a great day I had yesterday, made even more fun by all the sweet messages left through your comments on this blog, tweets and well wishes on Facebook! Oh, and even a few calls! Thank you! What more could a girl ask for?

Then, while enjoying a bit of pampering on my big day, one absolute truth that I kept thinking about was how this birthday would have proven to be a very challenging day...if a lot of work hadn't occurred over the past year. I'll go into this in more detail at some point, but essentially this past year I realized I had to get real with how I was taking care of myself and what I hoped for myself, if I wanted to enter this next decade feeling great about the future. So I got to work.

Why is it as women, mothers and wives in particular, we often find ourselves putting everyone else first? Sometimes when things are stretched thin, it seems like the only option.

But if we don't take care of ourselves first, how well can we really take care of the others that depend on us?


What that "taking care of" adds up to is different for each of us. But the important thing is we identify it, and then do our best to give it to ourselves.


Sometimes it is the small stuff, like getting a pedicure, taking the time to catch up with a friend, or having silly girl time with a daughter. Sometimes it is the bigger stuff that requires more time and effort.


But the important thing is to identify exactly what it is we need to do for ourselves, to allow us to take the best care of ourselves. Only then will we have the right energy and attitude to take care of those around us. Not easy to be sure...but pretty key to it all.

27 comments :

  1. Happy Birthday for yesterday, and can i just say you look fantastic for 50! I have just turned 49 and I have also started that same thought process of needing to look after myself more. As a single mum of 23,20 and 8 year olds I have put a lot of things on hold and let myself get quite unfit and overweight. Time to take stock and get my act together... I have 11 months!

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  2. Happy late birthday Janell! I love your attitude and philosophy. Enjoy your time away.

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  3. Allejulah to that!! I too put everyone before me, and feel strethed to the max quite often. It becomes almost foreign to put ourselves first especially once you become a mom! Thanks for the reminder and in fact just this week I took 3 days to go to the beach and hang and relax. Loving every minute!

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  4. So true! I've been thinking a lot about this lately myself. Some changes are coming:)

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  5. Wise words. When I turned 50 I had the same sort of AH HA moment. I decided there were things I could do to make my life easier and healthier. I had high blood pressure, really bad feet and was over-weight. It will be 2 years in August and now I've got my blood pressure under control, I've lost 40 lbs. and consequently my feet don't hurt anymore. My self confidence has resurrected itself from some deep hole in my soul. Good luck with whatever you do or have done. Happy Belated Birthday!

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  6. *** Interesting, Nellie-girl!!! As you know, we never HAD children... and yet, I am guilty of doing the very same thing!!! (Though in MY case, it's with Jim and "the girls", dawgs Belle n' Marnie)... Jim gets on my case about the exact subject & ENCOURAGES me CONSTANTLY to do whatever makes me happy & not worry so much... I AM happy and yes, I DO worry...I think it's a "chick thing"!!! Annnnnd...

    ... I mean, isn't it "MY JOB"??? (Grins!)...

    Hugs,
    Linda in AZ *
    bellesmom1234@comcast.net

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  7. *** OHHHHHH, and a DEAR, altho belated, HAPPY BD! "50"???... I have SHOES older than that!!! (Ha ha!)... XO, Linda ***

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  8. Yup, I agree with you. Most married women especially those who have children tend to put everyone else first before themselves.

    Case in point, me! Just like today, while I don't have to wake up as early as usual to prep my son for school (it's summer holiday, obviously), I still have to wake up early to make salad, pack a sandwich and a slice of cake for my husband to bring to work. I wish I can wake up at a later time, but it's not easy when you have all these responsibilities.

    I have been thinking about pampering myself lately since age is catching up fast. I haven't even had any facial treatments done, not even once so I think it's about time. Thanks for the reminder.

    Jessie
    www.mixandchic.com

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  9. It's great just to take time out and enjoy things. I hope you have a great birthday and even better year.

    I had to chuckle to myself when I saw the first pic. I have the same gold sandals. Love them!

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  10. You're 100% right! :) We do need to take care of ourselves.
    And (delayed) happy birthday to you!

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  11. Happy belated birthday! Glad to hear you had a great day of R&R. Love the pedi (and those sandals - fab!). Reminds me, I really need to schedule one myself!

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  12. Thanks for the reminder! And, happy belated birthday!

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  13. I think all mom's need this reminder to take care of themselves. We are the best mom's when we are our best selves!

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  14. First, let me say that I still cannot believe you are 50. When you posted about your big birthday I thought it was 40 (even though I know you have mentioned your age before). You could be in your 30s! And yes, this is a good reminder. I feel like to go get a pedi I have to have both kids napping, a zillion apologies to my husband (who, btw is awesome and always tells me to "just go") etc. Why do we feel so guilty when we do something for ourselves?

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  15. Great advice Janell, it all boils down to balance, the hardest act in the world for women to do!! When we are off balance in one area everything suffers and it is usually oUS that suffers the most. Hard lesson to learn and even harder to practice. xo Kathysue

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  16. Well said and a great reminder, Janell. I was just thinking about this last night.

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  17. Very inspiring! In particular, your comment about hard work struck a cord...we all know that hard work brings great things, and yet when it comes to doing that to improve/enhance our lives it somehow drops off...a great reminder to set some personal priorities and then go for it! One of mine was starting something creative - hence starting my blog - and it feels fantastic! But, there is more work to be done...:)

    http://bjdhausdesign.blogspot.com/

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  18. I love your posts about life. As a woman of a certain age, I can really relate. Thanks for sharing.

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  19. Very true! I really struggle with this as a new working mom. Happy Birthday!

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  20. Thanks for the reminder! I actually scheduled a massage for me today!

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  21. Amen sister, I have been thinking of this too so much lately, and taking more time for myself, most especially daily exercise! Great post!
    xo
    Kate

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  22. SO true! I need to do this more often! Thank you for the reminder.

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  23. Happy belated birthday, Janell! We needn't discuss the actual age, but you've got the concept right. Take care of ourselves. No one else will. And everyone loves us so much more when we're sparkling & pretty. Beautiful toes, hands, hair, skin is a good good thing...and it shows in our hearts and minds. Sending love, my friend. xx's

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  24. Happy Birthday!!! (a day late). You make Fifty look like Thirty! Glad you are celebrating you ;)

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  25. Wow! I nearly fell off my chair when I saw that you were 50 :) In a good way of course! You look like you are in your late 30's or early 40's. Good for you! And happy belated birthday!

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