Sunday, October 3, 2010

It's Now...A Post If You Are Looking For A Bit Of Motivation


My husband and I have been having a reoccurring conversation lately. These discussions have focused on work, life, how to get where you want to go, making your dreams come true, what are the habits that make a difference and what is really important and what isn't.

I've been playing around with the idea of writing a post on our conversations and the topic of motivation for quite a while now, and woke up this morning feeling motivated to put these conversations and thoughts down in a post. I get a lot of emails asking how I stay motivated, how I get done what I do and these conversations cover the key points of what keeps me going.

The conversations on this topic between my husband I started a few months back when we were driving and I was talking about what was motivating me to be devoted to my blog and career, in addition to my goals for my personal life. I said, "it's now or never", to which my husband replied, "it's now".

That made sense to me. "It's now or never" has a negative aspect to it, almost a threat, whereas "it's now" simply embraces the moment and says now is the time. If there is something you want to do, something you have a passion for, a goal you have been wanting to reach, a challenge you want to face, it's now. Embrace the moment and if there is anything in life that is important that isn't in your life at the moment, now is the time to find a way to get it in there.

Another component in our ongoing conversations are habits and knowing the little things add up. Do what you say you are going to do and just really try to do your best.




My kids...Now They Are My Motivation & Inspiration!

And motivation, we all need motivation! Several things motivate me, and at the top of the list is a desire to set a good example for my kids and have good relationship with them. The next thing that motivates me is a statement I heard years ago, which I am constantly repeating to myself and my husband.

I don't believe in luck, luck is simply preparation meeting opportunity.

Someone told a very successful person in a conversation that they were very lucky. This person responded by saying she didn't believe in luck, rather she believed in preparation meeting opportunity.

After hearing the statement I kept thinking about it and thinking about it. It stayed at the back of my mind and I found that the concept would be remembered when there was something I had to do which I really didn't want to do. Perhaps I was tired, or I thought why bother, what I am doing this for anyway, there doesn't really seem to be a point. Does it even matter? If I work really hard on this or that, who will really notice, where will it get me? Then I would remember the words "preparation meets opportunity" and would say to myself, okay, do your best work, it will make a difference in someway, someday. Write that letter, respond that that request, make the effort to talk to this person, do what you said you wanted to do or told someone you were going to do...put out your best effort. At least try...

As simple as it sounds it really has been a key component to whatever success I’ve had in life. When I focus on the work or thing I’ve committed to doing and complete the task, so often an opportunity arises later and I’m ready to jump on it because the work required has already been done.

What about you? What motivates you, what has made a difference in your life?
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42 comments:

Sarah @ threeboys-home.blogspot.com said...

Such a great post and for me very timely. I have just started taking the baby steps to find the career that I have always wanted. So when I spend hours working on a project for what seems a small return now. I try to keep that saying in mind. The good thing is that I finally found something that I LOVE to do so the hours seem to fly by. Thanks for such an inspirational post!

Kirsten Krason said...

That was amazing. I totally agree. So many people have excuse after excuse on why they can't make their dreams come true. No success ever come easily. It's a lot of hard work. But you can't give up!

You deserve everything that you have worked for! Love your blog :)

L.Duncan@Home23DuncanBoys said...

First let me say that this is another great post! Allow me to get a little personal in this comment...

I'm inspired by my past. Is it possible to be inspired by a negative experience? I had the worst childhood. My mom was a young mother (17), my dad was incarcerated when I was born until I was 5 and then he went back when I was 8 and recently was released last year. With my mom, I had to deal with her caring more for her "boyfriends" than her own kids. My step dad was abusive to both my mom and us. We moved from schools to schools where I went from student body president to a quiet insecure girl. I was put out of the house plenty of times by my mom or her husband for reasons that to this day doesn't make sense to me. Senior year in highschool when it was time to fill out paper work for college, my mom decided that she didn't want to do it, so I wasn't able to attend college until I was in my 20's.

I said all of that to say this: All of the things that I went through in my past (which is a lot more than I've shared here), inspires me everyday to be the best person I can be. Every time I think about what I went through, I do my best to make sure no one I encounter goes through any kind of sadness because of me. I try to make sure that my kids get every bit of love I can possible give them and sometimes I go a little overboard by being over protective! I met my husband when I was 16 years old and in a conversation we had on one of our dates, I cried to him telling him how happy he makes me and how I hope that he will always be there for me. Fast forward 11 years and he haven't left me since! My husband is another inspiration for me. He has always been a hardworker and to see him overcome obsticles in his life to reach the level of success he has now helps me to realize that I can do whatever I want if I stay focused and follow my dreams. He always tells me to go after what I want in life as if it has been promised to me!

What else inspires me? You! And I think everyone knows that by now so I'll just stop here!

Have a great weekend Janell!

Janell @ Isabella and Max said...

I'm glad this post is striking a cord with some of you, it obviously does for me! And most certainly, adversity is often a great motivator for people, including myself. And when you have the support of a loved one, many things do become possible that wouldn't be otherwise!

Janell

Kelly said...

My husband and I are almost empty nesters and have been working towards our ultimate goal...moving south and living a more walkable, urban lifestyle. So, with one kid already in college and the other to follow next fall, we've put our house on the market and are moving forward towards our goal. We just received an offer so hopefully we can get the deal together and put our plans in action soon! "Don't put off your happy life" - that's my motto!

Erin said...

The women in my family: my mom, aunt, and great grandma. I've seen these women become very successful business women that have balanced work and family. Sometimes it's meant they put their career on hold to raise kids but they've all achieved great success in their careers and are the most nurturing, loving mothers I know. I love my work, but have been considering having a family and keep wondering what that's going to mean for my career to raise kid(s). I have some of the best role models and support in my family.

Kate at Dream To Life said...

Thank you so much for sharing this - it is SO inspiring. You are right...the time is NOW! Why do we ever say never?

I'm never sayin' never again ;>)

cheers!
kate

Kate at Dream To Life said...

Thank you so much for sharing this - it is SO inspiring. You are right...the time is NOW! Why do we ever say never?

I'm never sayin' never again ;>)

cheers!
kate

Modern Country Style said...

I love that: preparation meeting opportunity.

I will do my best to remember that phrase. It's a good 'un.

Kelly said...

I believe in the idea of stacking the cards in your favor.

Sometimes life isn't fair and no matter how hard you work or prepare, things just don't go your way. I realize that my good fortune has just as much to do with chance or the power of greater things in the universe way beyond my control that others may not have had access to experience. I am fortunate and lucky in ways that stretch beyond my decisions and hard work. In my opinion luck and fate have a lot to do with if and when opportunity arrives.

However, being ready for and open to accepting it is up to us.

Kelly

Kat from California said...

I was just having this convo with my daughter's dad today. My goal is to get more organized so that my life runs more smoothly and I can be more sucessful with my online business.

Thanks!!


Katharine @ Kat's Almost Purrfect World
http://katspurrfectboutique.blogspot.com

Jade @ Flip Flops + Pearls Design said...

Janell-
I really needed this today! I was feeling down yesterday about how am I going to make things happen for me and get a jumpstart in my career. It's so true...luck is preparation meeting opportunity. So, I have to keep going full steam ahead and hopefully all my preparation will collide with opportunity. Thanks for this post on motivation! I will probably keep going back to it every week to remind myself to keep at it!

xo Jade

Caroline @ The Feminist Housewife said...

Loved this post! Such an encouragement...!

Erin said...

I like that: It's now or never. It's now.

Wouldn't that make a great typographic poster?! Love it!

And I totally agree re: luck. That's where my blog name comes from, actually. Some people say I'm lucky, but really, I'm lucky by design. I design my own luck.

pk @ Room Remix said...

I use the phrase "it's now or never" SO often, but I'm changing it starting today to "it's NOW!". Amazing what a difference just dropping the two words makes, isn't it. This is a very inspiring, well-written post Janell. I'm glad you decided to write it.

Megan {Honey We're Home} said...

It sounds like you have a very encouraging husband and a relationship where you have conversations about meaningful things, which is so great to hear. When the people who matter most to us support our efforts, it is very motivating! It helps to make us think we CAN do it- whatever our IT is.

Karen@StrictlySimpleStyle said...

Janell, it is so apparent to everyone who reads your blog that you are a very hard working woman. It motivates me to see how your hard work has led to so many amazing opportunities recently.

SHERRY HART said...

You are right about "now or never". I did not start my design career until I was about 42. Fast forward 15 years later, and my biggest regret is that I waited that long. I do think that when you love what you do... then it is easy to be inspired because you will have an "open" mind. You can embrace all it has to offer going forward to meet it rather than waiting for it to find you.

Great thought provoking post for everyone.

Abby and Her Boys said...

This was incredibly moving and inspiring...all the right words at just the right time. Thank you! abby

Allison said...

This was a great post, Janell! I reread it a few times because it had such an impact on me. I guess what has motivated me is going through the illness and then the loss of my Mom to cancer recently. Through the course of her illness she would encourage me to go after my dreams and pursue my goals and do what makes me happy. She would tell me don't put things off until next month or next year. Do it now. My Mom's life was cut short way too early. That really motivated me to change course and pursue my dreams, which is what I am doing. Now or never. It's now! Your post was very encouraging and motivating, Janell. Thank you for taking the time to share this with us. You are an amazing woman!

JJthe1st said...

YOur post was very motivating. The "it's now" comment really hit me. All we have is now anyway. Why not? Great post.

Bringing Pretty Back said...

Janell, This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today. I have been dreaming about what I want to do next in my life... and that is it. Dreaming. The time is now to make things happen. I loved the part in theis post about the lady that was successful and people told her she was lucky. That happened to me. I started a little soy candle company and I grew it into a nice little business. It wasn't a huge business but I was very proud of it. I was working 7 days a week sometimes 18 hours a day. Luck had nothing to do with it. I sold the business because it was consuming our lives, I never saw my children. I knew in my heart that that wasn't what my life was supposed to be. And believe me many thought I was crazy to sell the busines. I knew with all my heart it was the right thing to do. I have been dreaming of creating Bringing Pretty Back worshops, some adorable BPB merchandise and SO much more. I believe that is what I am supposed to do. Thank you for this .
The time is now.
Have a pretty day!
Kristin

Erika at BluLabel Bungalow said...

Thanks for being so transparent Janell. Surprisingly, I cannot articulate my thoughts to fit here in the comment section, but know that your words here have resonated within me to the core.

You are such an inspiration to us all.

Katie said...

This really hit home for me, because my husband and I have been having similar discussions lately about me starting up my own company. I have been doing lots and lots of research, but in doing so have gotten off track and made myself almost too comfortable in that to bite the bullet. He told me that I need to just put myself out there, do it, that there is only one way to find out if I will fail and that is to try. And if I fail, so I fail. It is really nice having a husband like that for support, but sometimes I still would rather just hole up in my comfort zone and not have to take a risk. I really appreciate what you said about , "the now" because you are so right. We only need to have the now, and how are we trying to make the now all it can be, without worrying about the future.

Liz said...

I totally agree and is why I started my own blog. I wanted something for myself that focused on my interests - I complained for a year about not having it. Then I finally just did it. It's now - so true! Love it. Great post.

Rene said...

Thank you for sharing with us Janell. As always, you said it well and have given me the little nudge that I so needed.

Also, I have to say that my hat is off to Lakeitha.

Rene

Courtney {a thoughtful place} said...

Janell, thanks for putting all of those thoughts down into words. My husband and I have been having a similar conversation. My all time favorite quote it, "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." (thoreau). Sounds like you are living that out! Love your blog.

Melanie Rossi said...

I love your blog! I've been a reader since I came across it several months ago! I had to tell you I made the sunburst mirror you posted using your directions and it was so easy and turned out great! Thank you so much for the inspiration!!!!

Cristin @ Simplified Bee™ said...

I completely agree! Procrastination can also stop someone in their tracks. Taking baby step and celebrating little wins help conqueror procrastination and in turn motivate.

Lovely post!

xo,
cristin

Janell @ Isabella and Max said...

Again, I am so pleased this post is resonating with many of you!

And Melanie, that is great!! I've seen a couple mirrors that have been made from the tutorial, fun! The first person had an issue with the hot glue getting the branches to "stay put", but we worked it out. It didn't help that the project was done in a sunny area...note to self, don't use hot glue under the hot sun!!! Send pictures sometime if you would like!

Janell

Haven and Home said...

HI Janell,

I finally got to see your Nate episode, you did GREAT!!!!!!!!!!! You looked great too! Congrats!!!!!!!!!! This is a good post because I am trying to find balance, stay motivated, etc. Thank you for sharing, I find you motivating!

xx,
Marianne

Leah said...

At the moment YOU are inpsiring me! Thank you for this!

Luvs!

Heather said...

I have a quote of my own... "When opportunity knocks, open the door...even if you're in your bathrobe!" You just have to be open to opportunities, and the more open you are, the more you'll make new opportunities for yourself! (Like you do!)

Sally J said...

I remember turning 50 and recognizing that if I was going to build my dream business, it was now or never. As a single person, it's a little scary to step out on that limb, but I did. The thing that keeps me motivated is knowing that I'm supposed to do what I'm doing...no question. I love the tennents of The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz). Be impecable with your word, Don't take anything personally, Don't make assumptions and Do your best! Those keep me focused on the vision, and motivated each day. Best of "luck" meeting your dreams head on!
www.divinedistractions.blogspot.com

lisaroyhandbags said...

I love this post!

I grew up in a finnish family where "sisu" (a strength of will, determination, perseverance, tenacity, having guts) was a way of life. Having this in my genes means that it's been a natural thing for me to work hard and put all effort forward in anything I try. My husband is much the same and any success we've had has been due to a lot of hard work and the willingness to take a risk and "go for it".
So many friends have commented on how lucky we are, but I agree with you that it's not about luck - we simply haven't sat by waiting for life to happen - we have taken the bull by the horns and made things happen for ourselves. And many of these choices have not been easy. People are constantly making excuses about why they may not have accomplished something they've wanted, but at the same time, they haven't truly put forth any effort to make it happen. Success won't simply fall from the sky!

Janell, your hard work is a true testament to where it can take you and I applaud your success - you deserve every minute of it, and it couldn't happen to a nicer person! xo

Rachel Gill said...

Hi Janell!

I love these heartfelt words. These are my favorite posts, the ones where you share your wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing! It was lovely meeting you at The Nate Show.

Rachel
xo

kimberleyo'c said...

Janelle,
I think about your blog alot. I was pondering yesterday what it is that makes me appreciate it so much more than many other blogs I read. I came to the conclusion that it is your generosity in sharing the process. That you are a professor of Home Design and that I am getting a wonderful tutorial in design and now-with this post- In Life! I appreciate your generosity and I just want to say thank you.
KimberleyO'C

Janell @ Isabella and Max said...

Well thank you, a comment such as this (and many of these here) really does make MY day!!

I just do feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to spend my working hours being creative and then having the pleasure of sharing whatever I've done! Before I had a blog I loved doing projects, but the best part was getting to share the result with the people who came into my house or the reaction and appreciation of a client...and now with a blog it is even better! When I do a project a big part of what I enjoy about it is that I know I get to share it with a lot of people, and see the results of other people being inspired in their own home! Thrilled I can also share a bit about my life that seems to resonate with a number of people...

Thanks! Janell

Carol@SofasandSage.com said...

Were you reading my mind today? I am doing a post for tomorrow, which I have been considering for the past few days, on the exact same topic. I'd like to link it to this post of yours, if you don't mind. Hearing these things from different sources is very validating. Thanks so much.

Robyn said...

I've been lacking motivation for the past few months. I decided to start a blog. I just jumped in and went for it last month. Normally, this is not something I would do. I'm excited each day to write something or share something. I want my children to know that I am living life not just watching it.

www.imperfectnest.com

Struggler said...

I'm catching up on my reading, so sorry to come late to this topic. I loved this post, Janell.

On the concept of 'luck', I do feel the English language needs another word. When I look around at all I have (starting with being born in the western world where most of us have food, water, shelter and rights for women), luck certainly comes into it. But so does good judgment, and some planning and prioritizing. Other people have so little, I'm sure the lifestyle I enjoy isn't purely down to my approach. But perhaps it's more about careful use of the cards which life deals you.

"It's now" is also very powerful. What I try to hold onto is, I'd rather make a mistake and regret it, than never take a risk and be sitting in my rocking chair aged 90, wondering what might have been. It sounds like you have a wonderfully supportive husband, and I'm "lucky" that I do too. A great partner, cheering you on, is truly priceless.

Janell @ Isabella and Max said...

Struggler, Loved all your comments...especially pointing out one POSSIBLE plus about textured walls, which I agree have few redeeming qualities! And luck, it is an interesting debate, fate I would tend to believe in more, and then how you handle those events and circumstances you are given determine whether you have luck or bad fortune. This topic could truly go on and on, and we are indeed beyond fortunate to have been born in countries where opportunities do exist in abundance.

Janell